Your date might suddenly start acting strange. You might wonder if these are the signs she is testing you or you did something wrong. For example, she plans to meet and then cancels without reason. She asks you questions, and the next moment becomes silent and refuses to talk. She might put you in tough spots and observe your reaction. You could be confused with her sudden changes in behavior. If you do not behave the way she wants you to, she might question you or respond unusually. While others may tell you she is playing mind games, you need to understand her concerns. Perhaps, she is testing you and trying to be more sure of certain parameters before committing to you for a long-term relationship. Keep reading as we tell more about this.
12 Signs She Is Testing You
Consider her tests normal and stay focused to pass them and win her. Here are some signs that tell she is testing you.
1. She plays hard to get
If she wants to see how serious you are about her and to what extent you will go to be with her, she might be hoping for you to make all the moves. She knows that someone who is fooling around will give up quickly, but the guy who genuinely loves her will stick around to earn her affection.
2. She wants to know how much you care for her
She wants to be taken care of and pampered when she is sick. When she tells you she is unwell, she wants you to check on her by calling or texting frequently. When you do, she will know you are concerned and want to take care of her.
3. She mentions one thing repeatedly
Of late, you have been hearing her mention how badly she wants to watch a particular movie or try the food at a new restaurant. You know she can do it alone anytime, but if she repeatedly mentions it, she probably wants to see if you are listening and paying attention to her. She wants you to suggest one of these wishes of hers, to show you care and to make her happy.
4. She takes you to a place where there are many women
If you ever find yourself with her in a pub or hangout place with many attractive ladies, do not give in to the temptation of checking them out. It could be difficult but remember her eyes are on you, and she will instantly notice when your eye contact darts toward other women. Some women will watch for this during the initial stages of courtship to ensure they are not dating a man that displays possible disloyal behaviors.
5. She cancels or postpones plans
There may come a time when she will cancel a date for no reason or suggest postponing a lunch or dinner. She wants to know what amount of effort you would put in to go on a date with her. A guy who is serious about her will try at least a couple of times to take her on a date. The one who gives up or forgets about her may not be ‘the one’ for her. However, if she cancels more than twice, get the hint that she is not interested in you.
6. She shows interest in knowing your past relationships
Your past relationships can tell her a lot about you. If she asks you about your exes, say good things about them without blurting out every detail. Show her you are mature enough to move on with good feelings in your heart. And do not talk badly about your exes; it shows your lack of respect for women and relationships.
7. She introduces you to her friends
Perhaps she fears that her love for you might blind her to the extent where she overlooks your flaws. She might look for others’ opinions by introducing you to her friends. This ‘expert panel’ of hers will give her feedback on whether or not they see you as the best match for her. When she takes you to meet her friends, remember to be on your best behavior – these opinions are often taken quite seriously.
8. She shares little details about herself
You may find it unusual when she tells you how her pet dog accidentally pooped on her, or her first favorite color was yellow, but now she likes red. She might say such things to check if you pay attention to what she says. If she matters to you, you will remember little things about her. And if not, it’s loud and clear that you are not listening to her, which will feel like you do not care enough for her.
9. She seeks your help
When she asks you for help, she wants to know if she can rely on you. Women like to be with someone who makes them feel safe and protected. If she calls you late at night to fix her computer, help her and let her know you will be there for her whenever she needs you. However, none of us should be at someone’s beck and call. Learn to gauge when she needs you and when she will be okay independently.
10. She deliberately pushes your limits
You may feel like she is unreasonable and testing your patience at times. She is looking to understand how you react under pressure and to what extent you can control yourself. If you are in the initial dating period, she might need to understand your worst possible reaction.
11. She wants to know your plans for the future
When a woman asks you about your plans, goals, and ambitions, she is probably considering you for the long run. She wants to know what she can expect from you in a relationship and if you are a suitable person who can offer her a solid relationship of companionship and security.
12. She avoids getting intimate with you
She probably likes you as much as you like her, but that does not mean she will immediately have a sexual relationship with you. By waiting, she will feel more comfortable about your real intentions. A man who wants to date only for physical intimacy will get impatient, but a guy who truly has loving feelings for her will wait till she feels comfortable enough to be intimate with him. When she willingly sleeps with you, it means she is positive about who you are and wants to move into a closer physical relationship.
